At times, discernment can be a
very hard thing. When we were told, on
Thursday of last week, it would likely take 10 business days to process Jamil’s
passport, we were shocked. Jay began
problem solving. We made the decision to
fly home on the following Tuesday night.
We had talked to Jamil about the options. We would pray we would get his passport
sooner. If we did, then we would adjust
our plan. Monday, mid-afternoon, I said
to Jamil that I really hoped we’d hear something about his passport. He said, “We will pray.” Monday, late afternoon, we received word that
the passport had been approved and should be ready to pick on Wednesday. So, we decided we should postpone our
flight. Again, we began planning our
next steps. If we could get the numbers
we needed from the passport, we could get online to get in line for the US
Embassy for his needed visa. We could
potentially be back to the States before another weekend passed. God is good, all the time God is good. With expectation in our hearts, we kept
working on Jamil’s schoolwork, enjoying our time with Kate and Jemimah, and
missing Jake, Jared, and Jayne. Since
Jamil came to stay with us on June 5th, he has been very joyful,
jovial, and teachable. The first time I
saw a shift in this was the night of July 1st, when we took April to
the airport. I didn’t realize it until
later, but he was having a hard time with her departure. I came to realize this more fully, when he
found out Jake, Jared, and Jayne would be flying home, without us, a couple of
weeks ago. I asked him what was wrong,
and he would only admit to having a headache.
Later in the day of their departure, he acknowledged with a few tears
that he was sad because they were leaving.
We talked about it is okay to feel sad.
We all do at times. God gave us
emotions. My heart had broken the
Tuesday before when I realized the judge was not yet willing to give us
temporary guardianship of Jamil until our court file was more complete. After my tears subsided, I realized the judge
did not close the door….he just needed more information before we could walk
through it. As we quickly gathered information
on our end and Jamil’s end, we were excited to know on Wednesday afternoon that
our file was complete enough for him, and he would grant the written ruling the
following Tuesday. Our attorney said both Jay and I would need
to stay. So, the decision was made for
the kid’s to travel without us. Previously as we contemplated their travel
without one of us, we were torn and didn’t have peace for this. We never want to live with regret. If we sent them to the US by our choice alone,
what if something happened?? The Lord
had given us clear discernment, we should stay and they could leave. God is good all the time, all the time God is
good.
The next 24 hours are chronicled
in the blog “Waiting Here for You”. I have a couple of things that left an
indelible mark, on me, from our scavenger hunt adventure. First, to hear Robina, Jamil’s mother, as she
talked to her parents on the phone for the first time in a very long time. I could hear the excitement and rejoicing
through the phone in each of her parent’s voices.
I was reminded of the story of the prodigal
son. Second, Jamil had never met the
relatives of his biological father. Upon
returning from our adventure he said, “I have a really big family. I didn’t make it to see all of their
houses.” The biggest imprint in my mind
and heart is when we said goodbye to his mother, in Jinja, at the end of the
day. I gave her a hug, she only shook
Jamil’s hand.
When we
returned to court on Tuesday, we were delayed again because of the new
information our attorney presented from our scavenger hunt. The judge seemed pleased that we had gathered
the information and verbally stated that he would grant us temporary
guardianship, but he would need to add it to his written ruling. We must have
the written ruling in order to apply for Jamil’s passport. Maybe, it would be ready the next morning. It was not.
However, we were called on Thursday, it was ready and we could go to
turn in the passport paperwork.
Previously, passports might take 1 to 3 days. Now, at least 10 business days. What?????
God is good all the time, all the time God is good. At this point, is when we decided to get back
to the States and return when the paperwork was completed, and we were ready
for the visa interview. Jamil would stay
with Pastor Fred. Jamil feels very at
home with Fred’s family. Actually, Jamil
and I were going over the work he could do on his own from his books when the
text came in saying his passport had been approved. It would be printed and signed, ready to pick
on Wednesday. God is good all the time,
God is good. So as I stated previously,
we changed our flight and began to think through the possibility that we would
all three fly home on early Saturday morning!!
Tuesday, we went to the attorney’s office to gather a few documents we
would need for the visa interview.
Tuesday night, as we returned to
our guest house, Jamil informed me that he “was paining” around his closed
eye. Only hours before, I had been asked,
in a Facebook post, how he was feeling and had replied that he was feeling fine. We
have been doing a lot of work on English and reading as well as math to fill
our days.
One goal I’ve had is to help
Jamil to catch up to the students his age in school. He is in P-3 (primary 3) and according to his
birth certificate, he will turn 13 on the 17th of October. He is so very smart. He has a quick wit. He
can speak several languages. I do not
want him to lose this ability. We also
want for him the same thing we desire for each of our children. We want him to follow the God’s will and call
on his life. At this point, he wants to
become a doctor. Remember, I said
discernment can be hard? We knew, if
Jamil’s tumor had returned we were to do everything we could to bring him to
the US. Before we knew his tumor was
back and we were in Palissa having a medical clinic at Jamil’s school, I was so
proud of Jamil as I watched him become a translator for Jay and April. As he was doing this, I asked another translator
to tell his grandfather who was standing there, how proud I was of Jamil. The translator did, then he began to laugh at
Jamil’s grandfather’s response. I asked “What
did he say?” He told me Jamil’s
grandfather wanted to know if I was ready to take Jamil back with me? What?????
This had never entered my mind.
But, I must admit it did plant a seed.
I started looking back to the Know More Orphans conference Jayne and I
attended in Alabama. Why did we
go?? I knew the reasons at the time, but
could there be more? I have stated
previously, “I would never be able to home school, yet here we go in the fall!” I’ve learned never to say never. Two
things that resonated with me at the conference: One was a father of an 18 year
old adopted son from an African country. As he had grown, this young man had
made some painful choices for not only himself, but for his parents as
well. He was now making better choices,
but this dad wanted others to learn from their journey. He asked his son, “If there is one thing, you
would have me tell these potential adopting parents, what would it be?” He told his dad, “Never take the child away
from his culture.” This statement leads
me two the second thing I took away. I
was thankful that the conference didn’t define orphan care as adoption
only. I was somewhat hesitant that I
would walk away feeling guilty for not choosing adoption. Not so. But now, was Jamil’s grandfather serious? It did start a conversation in our
family. One that we will continue to
pray about and believe the Lord will give us the discernment in His
timing. I must confess, I have no idea
if we are to officially adopt Jamil or not.
I can tell you in my heart, he is already part of our family.
I had a friend once tell me the Lord had
shown her a veil in her future. He told
her not to worry about what was behind it.
She was to walk on the path that He had showed her at this time. We
know the Lord has called us to bring Jamil to the US for treatment.
After our kids left to return to
the USA, we had to change guest houses, due to another team coming to the one
we had stayed in most recently, next to Gabba Community Church. Our friend,
David Gitta, introduced us to Kate and Jemimah.
They have a guest house that is just a short distance, around the bank
of Lake Victoria, from the apartments that we stayed in back in 2012. I know
God planned this move. Their guest house
is a beautifully relaxing home and they became family to us. I think we needed time and wisdom from Kate to
help Jamil transition from the culture he knows, to one that could potentially
be overwhelming. She has been a valuable
resource in this area. So we are planning for him to Skype call his
family and David, at least once a week, while he is in the US, with us, to
receive treatment. Our temporary
guardianship orders forbid us to adopt Jamil, while he is in the US for medical
treatment. Therefore, this process which
we started June 5th, for guardianship, would start again, from
square one, if we discern that adoption is God’s will. God is good all the time, and all the time
God is good.
Kate, Jemimah, Jamil, Jay, and I
went to dinner Wednesday night. It was very quiet as we sat through the first
part of the meal. Jay received an email
which made us realize we have no idea the time frame for the visa through the
US Embassy, even after we get the passport.
We were perplexed, as we knew that God had moved so many things forward miraculously,
but we also realized that Jake, Jared, and Jayne had now been in the US for two
weeks. Jake moves to Southwestern
Oklahoma State in Weatherford on August 16th. Jay has some work shifts scheduled in the
coming weeks. We have to get our homeschool
curriculum organized, for August,
for Jared and Jayne. What do we do now??
Kate encouraged me by reminding me we have been praying for God’s will. He has a plan and a purpose. Jay knew he must come home soon. I felt I was in a no win situation: to stay in Uganda, for God only knows how
long, with Jamil as Jay returned to the States was weighing heavy on my heart. That was coupled with me missing our kids and
the last couple of weeks, with Jake, before he moves to SWOSU. I decided to fast and pray on Thursday for
clarity. God has always been so faithful
to answer prayer, with such clarity, while I’ve been in Uganda. What and why was this so hard to know what to
do??? Why did it seem He was so quiet and not so
near? I know it only takes the faith of
a mustard seed to move mountains. He’s already moved several during this
process. I know He could still make
everything fall into place. I was believing
Him for this, knowing at the same time, He is the Alpha and Omega. His will, not mine. I don’t have to worry about the outcome, He’s
in control. I was not okay with leaving and not okay with
staying. I was tempted to question my
faith. Thankfully, I decided to focus on
the way out of that temptation, even if I didn’t understand it or feel like
it. I had to consciously choose to do
this. Thursday by midday, we still had
heard nothing about Jamil’s passport. In fact, now the attorney was unsure if
Jamil’s passport had even been printed or if we were waiting only for the needed
signature. I received a message from
Tana on facebook, asking me to please tell her that we had received the
passport. When I let her know we hadn’t,
she shared she had seen on a news website that the computer data base, of the
US, for passports and global visas had a glitch, thus slowing down the ability,
all over the world, to permit visas. Seriously??? When we looked it up, we
discovered one country alone had a backlog of over 50,000 visas to be
processed. The article stated it would cause hardship
for many. You think? God is good all the time, all the time God is
good. That little nugget of glorious
information is what the Lord used to break my stalemate. Jay and I were to come back to the States and
one, or both of us, will return once the paperwork is processed and we have an
appointment for the visa interview. The
Lord was now clear. Yet, my heart hurts
to leave. We found out we could fly
early Friday morning instead of waiting until Saturday morning. As Jamil and I went over his books and work
for him to do during the next couple of weeks, he was so quiet. We talked about knowing we can trust God and
His plan. Tears and hugs followed. I’ve blogged before that Proverbs 3:5-6 is my
life verse. “Trust in the Lord with all
your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge
Him, and He will make your path straight.”
As the Lord teaches me by gently pealing back another layer in our
relationship together, to trust Him no matter what, I realize that “straight” isn’t necessarily a straight
line. It can be very bumpy and curvy
like the roads in Uganda. But, it means
He will show His plan by yieldi discernment in His time, not mine. I can trust by faith, not feelings, that He
is in control, when it would seem He might not be. So, I started this blog in London and am
finishing it as we are flying to DFW, without Jamil, at this time. As I type these words, my eyes are blurred
with tears. But, I don’t have to worry
what others might say or think, as I abide in Him. He wins!
By faith I trust He will receive all the glory! He never said our path was easy, but I can
trust He is guiding me down it. I miss
Jamil already!
Continuing to prepare for Due Season,
Jill
Continuing to prepare for Due Season,
Jill